On Love and Relationships: 4 Ways You Can Improve Your Love Life

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By: Jessica Danielle Ramirez

Everyone wants to be loved, to feel desired, and perhaps one day find that person who makes their life complete. Whether you have just gone on a date and are disappointed that the connection wasn’t there, or you feel trapped in a dry spell wishing to meet a potential –  it can be truly exhausting; and it can leave some feeling hopeless, as though things will never change.

However, we (you) are in charge of your destiny. You can go from loveless to the most desirable person in your group of friends, and it has little to do with your appearance. Here are 5 ways you can improve your love life – and, more importantly, yourself:

Love yourself: The first step is to let go of all who bring you down. The ex who owes you money, the person who ghosted, or the “friend” who only comes around when she’s fighting with her boyfriend – these are often the situations that can make you question your happiness. It’s those relationships that can leave you bitter, leave those behind because you’re better off alone. Your own happiness is more important.

Improve yourself: This is where your private victories come into play. This could mean paying your bills on time (or all off), helping others when they could do nothing for you in returning, spending more time with your parents and sibling… there are endless ways to do this! And improving yourself will help you become an all-around better human being.

 Find your passion and just go for it: The common saying of “love happens when you least expect it” is true when you’re fulfilled in your own life. Having something that you love to do will not only fill the vacant spot in your heart, but also draws people to you because you’ll be perceived as more interesting.

Date a lot: Be open with your time and spend it with more than just one or two people; however, be picky in who you invest in emotionally. The more dates you go on, the better you’ll be in figuring out what is negotiable and what isn’t. Plus, you never know, the short person who you swore you’d never date, or the red head that you said you were not attracted to could end up being the coolest person you’ve ever had dinner with.