Shhh! Conversations to Steer Clear of in the Beginning of a Relationship

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By: Jessica Danielle Ramirez

The start of any relationship is like a game of possibilities. One common (and safe) route to dating a potential spouse is meeting the person through a friend. It’s easier to get an idea of who the person is by the opinion of a trusted friend; and having that mutual friend makes all the difference because you are more likely to have similar interests, funny memories to share, or maybe a guaranteed double date.

And then, there is the usual – no mutual friends and a completely attractive stranger. The exciting part of dating someone new is discovering who this mystery person truly is with the high hopes of falling in love; and then the rest is history. The most fragile part of dating is the beginning because people are often judging based off of looks, mannerisms, what is communicated, and the overall connection.

That being said – there are five things you should not talk about at the very start of a relationship:

Finances: Money is always a sensitive subject. Whether you see six figures or only a few figures in the bank, never mention your economic status. It’s not attractive for either male or female to boast about their income or to complain how she or he was not given a raise this year.

How you are sorry for…: Dating can be a tricky game because we all want to feel loved and be in love.  It can also make us talk too much and over share because you’re searching for the connection or trying to speed up the process. Whether you’re guilty for TMI or pressing the send button too many times, don’t call or text to apologize. Just accept what is done or said and practice being slightly mysterious.

The Ex: Neither of you want to hear endless stories about past memories with an ex. Everyone has a past, but the second stories of how “Mr. Ghosted On Me” comes up, he’ll look at you and make up his mind – you’re probably never hearing from him again too.

His guaranteed invitation to Latino Fashion Live:  Or any plus one event that is far ahead in the future, for that matter. Inviting him to special events is nice, but only if it’s this weekend and not three months away. This conversation indicates you made up your mind and he has won the game. This is also the part where he could slowly disappear.

Weight issues: You want to lose 5 pounds? Great! Don’t tell him. It makes you look insecure and not the hot commodity he knows you are. Be confident.

Bottom line: Have fun, laugh often, and share fun stories that show what kind of catch you truly are. But most of all, be yourself!