Keeping the Romance Hot between You and Your Partner

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By: Jessica Danielle Ramirez 

Flowers, creative dates, long nights of endless talks and steamy sex — the whole nine yards and also known as the “honeymoon stage.”  

The beginning of a relationship is undoubtedly one of the most pleasant and memorable times in a couple’s relationship. He wants to learn all about you and surprises you with romantic details — all of which leave you smiling from cheek to cheek.

Fast forward to one, two or ten years. The great over-the-moon feeling you and your partner once had that started the great journey together has faded, but not vanished. Personal marketing integral coach Anllelic Lozada finds that the best way to remain a strong, healthy relationship is by nurturing. 

Nurturing involves the small details that are found in the early stages of a relationship such as being supportive, a good listener and attentive — to name a few. These can blossom any relationship regardless of what stage it is in to a much stronger one.

“Making an effort to make the other partner happy is the key for both parties to feel appreciated,” Lozada said.

Every couple has their own way of expressing their love for each other. Some keep the romance alive after decades of being together, while others may neglect their time together by focusing on kids, their careers and life’s curveballs.

But the key to keeping the love alive throughout all of life’s changes is simply based on personal emotional growth.

“If each partner is committed to growing as an individual, then he/she is giving himself/herself permission to love themselves first,” she explained. “If we love ourselves first, we can then love another person and also be loved.”

Usually, couples feel the need to impress each other during the early stages of the relationship, but as time passes, that feeling is lost.

“Once we have the illusion of having secured a partner, we lose the true meaning of unconditional love,” Lozada explained.

But there are ways for not losing sight of what brought you and your partner together. Most importantly, choose the one person that you’ll be able to love with flaws and all. “People do change and it’s only for personal growth — but we can’t count on it,” she said.

So the next time you and your partner find yourselves in a rough patch, the best thing to do is rekindle the attraction that brought you two together in the beginning.